High heels are working for us

November 11, 2008

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Incase you’ve been hiding under a rock or perhaps your family is financially supported in a way that is completely US economy-proofed, I thought I’d share this with you: The markets have been a little crazy and a lot down lately.

This has led to a rise in stress level for my dh, whose job is directly related to the market. He is an amazing man who works hard, loves fully, gives generously and as I said in our wedding vows 9 years ago, is God’s gift  to me.

I was designed to be his helpmate and this is a job I have been able to let slide for many years.

When I first became a mom, the adjustment was a hard one for me. And he gave me what I needed, supporting me, encouraging me and giving me breaks even when I didn’t know that was what I needed.

My husband stepped up to the plate and then some. I gave all I could, but he gave more. I just didn’t have much in me and he made up for it every step of the way.

And now it is my turn to step up to the plate and give my 100%, and then some.

It’s my turn to support him and do whatever I can to lighten his load… Without one single gripe or even a bad thought. He’s working like crazy while at the office (and still thinking about it when he’s not) yet he still manages to be home for a family dinner nearly every night by 6 p.m.

So I’m working harder to make our home as comforting as possible. I’m trying (yes trying) to keep it as stress-free around here as I can. And he’s noticed.

(I feel as though I’m finally earning my homemaker gold stars! But I’ve posted on why I think that is happening before. Guess there was a plan. And He wanted me ready!)

In addition to all my domestic duties, I’m trying to help in other ways.

My husband married a gal who took much better care of herself when we were dating. And lately, she’s been back. Not all the time, but more often than she was.

When he takes me out for our date night each week, (Yep. Every week– I told you he was a gift.) I try to take a little more care in my appearance and think about what he likes. I wear the clothes I know he likes to see me in. Even if my toes long for the flats, I slip on the heels… and off we go for our date.

Now, before you start judging who I am, let me tell you this: I’m the girl who drops off the kids sans makeup. In very casual clothes. I am not the primping type and if we run into each other at Target or the grocery store or even lunch or the mall I probably won’t have any makeup on. And I know he likes me that way, too.

But if it is date night, I’m ready. I’ve got the heels on… and not only does he like them, they make me feel a little sassy, too. And that is good for both of us.

So, the heels are working for us. They are letting us have a little more fun in our otherwise stressful lives. And they help us both remember that we are a man and a woman, husband and wife. And if it just takes that tiny effort to make both of us smile, I think I’ll keep it coming!

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1 Rena Gunther November 11, 2008 at 11:54 pm

What a sweet post! Your heels are stepping on my toes, though. ;)

It’s good, though. Really. I have been feeling that pull in my spirit to step it up in this area. Namely, I need to de-stress before he gets home. I do work sporadically, cleaning houses and a bit of other misc. things.

It’s been a struggle. But I want to be the helpmate he needs. And God is able to work that in me. Thanks for the encouragement. And you rock those shoes, girl!

Rena Gunther

2 Barbara November 12, 2008 at 8:02 am

That is really sweet!! Maybe I need to slip some heels on once in a while too!!! (Flats are just sooo much more comfortable!) haha!!

3 Carol November 12, 2008 at 8:28 am

Bring it, girl!

You do whatever makes you feel sexy for your man and that he likes. High heels, makeup, a little jewelry. . . get all dolled up for him. He deserves it and it’s good for you, too.

4 Sarah at themommylogues November 12, 2008 at 10:18 am

Heels really do a number on my attitude! And it’s so very rare that I get a chance to wear them. Which is sad for me, because I am a shoe girl. We’ve had 3 weddings in the past month, and it’s been great to get all dressed up!

5 Blue Castle November 12, 2008 at 4:04 pm

Good for you! – a date night every week? Wow. That’s awesome. :)

6 rachel@justanotherdayinparadise November 12, 2008 at 4:50 pm

so sweet! I wish I got date night once a week. . .

7 Betty Beguiles November 12, 2008 at 6:26 pm

I love it! I feel a little sassy when I wear heels, too! ;)

8 Where life becomes art November 12, 2008 at 6:59 pm

What a lovely post. I am in a similar situation, and I am trying to be better about the house, but your post helps me think about where I can improve, and other things he might like.
Thank you!

9 Susan (A Happy Heart at Home) November 13, 2008 at 1:38 am

What a great post! You both are blessed to have each other. I definitely needed to read this post. Thanks for sharing it.

I can’t wear high heels right now because I have a problem with my feet; hopefully, they will improve and I can wear dressier shoes. I *love* the look of high heels. If my feet could handle them, I’d probably buy too many! LOL!

10 Rachel November 13, 2008 at 12:48 pm

This is sweet. Hope things lighten up for your hubby soon! :)

11 Somebody's Mimi November 14, 2008 at 5:47 pm

You ARE the Babe!! Have you tried those red heels, yet? I think you’ve got the right plan for the right man!

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